It goes on guard to point out all the negatives. It is the “you” that most people typically relate to. If a plan of action does not work, then it is thought through again until a solution is found. The ego's voice is much louder than that of your true self, so you must lend an attentive ear to the more positive, enlightened counterpart. As Th anissaro Bhikkhu says, a healthy ego is necessary to have an “ honest sense of how to learn from your past mistakes for … It isn’t normal to have an insatiable desire to attain the most of something– money, cars, homes, power, etc. It is not your soul, or your higher self, but rather the mask your higher self wears in this physical reality to identify itself as an individual. Your ego is your self-image, and it allows you to be aware of yourself as a person separate from everyone else. If your focus is on who was behind a great idea instead of which ideas your company should choose, the ego barrier is probably to blame. Embrace “beginner’s mind” The ego struggles with anything that threatens the self-concept and damages worldly notions of self-worth. But it also has to do with specific beliefs that make you see reality how you do and believe that this is the only true way. Be aware when the ego is clouding your joy. Do Not Fear the Ego. Once you begin to become a humble person, you will also give more way for your ego to melt. 9. Ego makes you over-estimate your own abilities and worth, … For example, if a person cuts you off in traffic, the ego prevents you from chasing down the car and physically attacking the offending driver. The superego tries to perfect and civilize our behavior. Your ego is there to constantly tell you what is lacking. Compliment others: It is a great thing to compliment others. Greed can bring down an individual, a family… even a society. Too much is never enough. 1. Let your partner or friend know how beautiful they look today and how great that dress looks on them. Here are my 7 ways to control your ego and stop it from stopping you from reaching your goals! If your ego is wounded with afflictions such as self-belittlement, you need to reclaim a balanced sense of self in the first place. Your ego isn’t going to lead you to do what is best for you. Being fearful of mistakes: Either you don't make suggestions at all for fear of being wrong or you're very hard on yourself when something doesn't go right. It’s normal to want to achieve success, possess nice things and have some security. Everyone is equal, no one is better than anyone else; your higher self knows that, but ego does not. The ego operates based on the reality principle, which works to satisfy the id's desires in a manner that is realistic and socially appropriate. Your ego is the product of the emotions, thoughts and memories you’ve accumulated over your whole life. Your ego is the part of you that says you are better than someone else. Plus it is an easy way to pretend that your ego problems don’t exist for just a bit. It is trying to make you feel better, but it can go too far. The ego tends to adopt labels, like a nationality or a race. The ego can easily steal your joy by filling you with worries, concerns, regrets, and embarrassment. The ego ideal includes the rules and standards for behaviors that the ego aspires to. Here are 9 signs your ego is in control of your life: 1. Your ego is what prevents you from hearing critical but necessary feedback from others. Your ego is responsible for seeking approval of others and what they may think if you fail. Everything Has a Purpose While you shouldn't fully listen to and obey your ego, there's no need to condone it. This is known as reality testing and enables the person to control their impulses and demonstrate self-control, via mastery of the ego. 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